[Mind] It's so awkward recently~

看板EngTalk (全英文聊天)作者 (真的會被操死XD)時間16年前 (2009/03/21 09:10), 編輯推噓2(2018)
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Sorry guys, I just want to let off my feelings. I don't want to post this on my blog, because my parents always keep eyes on it to know my life in Maryland. I don't want them to worry about me. But things doesn't go well these days. Actually, it has nothing to do with me. It's about my housemate. Previously, I brought my girlfriend home, and introduced to him to say hi. Since he is the one who runs the house on behalf of the landlord, I think I need to notice him whenever I bring some guests home. By then, he didn't have any problem with this. Afterward, I took her home very often, almost a half of week she stays at my place. I do know US houses are not as solid as those of Taiwan. They are not made of concrete like us. So, it is so easy to hear sounds coming from another room right besides yours. I'm a quiet person, just like my housemate. I can sense that every talking or sounds I make might disturb my housemate. Unfortunately, my girlfriend doesn't. She lives with a bunch of Chinese people. So, when she is in her house, she always communicates with her housemates with loud voice which they think that is totally fine. But in our house, it is not. Americans seem to take their private spaces seriously. They hope others can respect their personal spaces. They don't want to be bothered by others. Of course they will treat you in the same way. Well, you know we come to this far to study, sometimes we need to talk with our parents. So does my girlfriend. However, she talked so loudly. And the day after that, I got an email from my housemate about how he was bothered by her , and about the sharing of the bathroom, because he thinks that should be shared by two housemates instead of three. Now, my girl friend comes, and he said sometimes she ruined his daily schedule because he can't use the bathroom whenever he wants. I wrote back about how sorry I am and promised I'll talk with her about this. And he was very generous to suggest that we can take over another bigger room because that housemate will move out in this summer, so that we can have both our private spaces without worring about all these problems. Before that, my GF is still welcome. However, yesterday, when he used the bathroom, his poops stuck the toilet. I have to admit that our toilet a little bit small so that the poops easily get stuck there, and we have to use the plunger to push it out. However, this time it doesn't work. And he came to our room to warn us not to use it temporarlly. He will find some way to fix it. Then he left. And my GF and I went back and kept taking a nap. About an hour later, he knocked my door, and said, "Hey, I said not to use the bath room, who used that?" "I don't know," I said. "Did she use it?" "No, we were sleeping." I said. "Are you sure?" "Of course, I'm right besides her, it can't be her." "OK, sorry about that." I felt a little insulted for my GF. I guess he's already had the bad impression on her. I felt uncomfortable with this. I tried to give him a hand to fix the toilet. But he insisted to do it by himself, and said I won't want to see that. And today, he tried to use a faucet in front of our house, which was very tight and I just used it to wash my car with his help for turning it on. However, this morning it broke when he tried to turn it on..... I don't know what to say. I could feel his frustration when he came back to his room. He is such a nice and responsible guy. When I first time came here, he did a lots for me with moving in. I wanted to do something, but he didn't even let me share his burden. These stuffs really killed him and all happend after my GF's coming. I bet now he absolutely gets pissed off and hates my GF now.....><... It seems there is an invisible, awkward atmosphere around us.... Hope everything will be back to normal soon~~ -- -- ※ 發信站: 批踢踢實業坊(ptt.cc) ◆ From: 68.50.195.29

03/21 09:44, , 1F
Well, I can kind of understand how he felt for I had
03/21 09:44, 1F

03/21 09:45, , 2F
been in the simular situation before. The way I did is,
03/21 09:45, 2F

03/21 09:46, , 3F
you may not like to see this, throw her out for too much
03/21 09:46, 3F

03/21 09:46, , 4F
is too much.
03/21 09:46, 4F

03/21 10:40, , 5F
i feel you are just taking advantage of his kindness
03/21 10:40, 5F

03/21 17:10, , 6F
same as 1F, I can feel your housemate since I was in
03/21 17:10, 6F

03/21 17:10, , 7F
similar situations. You should feel sorry for him, but
03/21 17:10, 7F

03/21 17:11, , 8F
it's not enough. Can't you just ask your GF to respect
03/21 17:11, 8F

03/21 17:11, , 9F
others, especially when she's not even related to this
03/21 17:11, 9F

03/21 17:12, , 10F
house. Let her know that she bothers ppl.
03/21 17:12, 10F

03/21 17:13, , 11F
on top of that, why is she there this often? I would
03/21 17:13, 11F

03/21 17:13, , 12F
be annoyed by that too. having someone I don't know in
03/21 17:13, 12F

03/21 17:13, , 13F
the house? I don't feel comfortable with it...
03/21 17:13, 13F

03/22 12:23, , 14F
The situation is very simple...what you have to
03/22 12:23, 14F

03/22 12:24, , 15F
do is to keep your GF away the house...
03/22 12:24, 15F

03/23 13:43, , 16F
or you should go to your GF's place...
03/23 13:43, 16F

03/23 13:44, , 17F
if not let your housemate befriends with your gf
03/23 13:44, 17F

03/23 14:52, , 18F
Hmm...I think I will go to her place instead
03/23 14:52, 18F

03/23 14:53, , 19F
otherwise ask her to officially move in just like
03/23 14:53, 19F

03/23 14:54, , 20F
he mentioned before~ Thank you, guys!
03/23 14:54, 20F
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