Re: [閒聊] 慢慢被疏遠的感覺...

看板chatskill (溝通談話技巧)作者eaquson (海鮮雙手捲)時間18年前 (2007/05/09 09:02)推噓5(5推 0噓 1→)

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※ 引述《james008 (年輕的老人)》之銘言： : 感覺...很差 : 聊天談話的次數和時間愈來愈少 : 這時候都會先想自己到底做錯何事，說錯何話 : 這時候大家都會怎麼做？ : 直接講明自己的疑慮嗎 (這樣不是很尷尬?) : 還是就只能順其自然?等待有好機會解釋 : 有人有親身體驗過的例子嗎 sorry 用很爛的英文 People are different. For those who are more comfortable to have several close friends rather than being popular in a circle of friends, there is also difference between them. Some feel uncomfortable when entering into unfamiliar surroundings. They try to find one or two close friend as soon as possible. However, they want to meet more people and make new acquantance with them in the same way. When this happens,those who are their intimate friend always feel alienated from them. The situation is a little strange to you, and very hard to deal with when you're not ready to change and became more or less anaclitic. It is even more embarrassing when you do some daily routines (eating lunch, walk home,etc) together. Your friend might sense the difference as well. But it is a nature that she tends to overlook it and think that there is no big deal. It is my advice to step aside for a while. Friendship is like rubber band. Tighten it for a long time will cause deformation. If she is not intend to end the relationship, she will come back to you. This might take weeks, even a month. But she will come back to you anyway. It is time for you to check out your own interpersonal relationship. There might be your old friends who had faced the same problem as you do! Come back to them. You got to meet new friends too. Contact different people and find something new. What is Hot now? Whose experience or opinion surprises you? Keep yourself "fresh". Maybe you can go to her and talk about what you have learned these days as if nothing happened. When she comes back to you, she will find a charming person whom she is familiar with. It is not your fault. Maybe you're not as charming as someone else, you mean something special to her since you both have been close friends before. It is not her fault, too. Having being close friend doesn't mean that she is responsible to mend your friendship. This is cruel. Those who can overpass it will be more strong and reliable. Step aside until you can talk about the situation with her without anxiety, or you can also wait until she comes back to you with regret. you can also find help at "humanity" board at ptt Cheers, -- 如果有一天　我回到從前回到最原始的我　你是否會覺得我不錯如果有一天　我離你遙遠不能再和你相約　你是否會發覺我已經說再見 ※ 編輯: eaquson 來自: 61.230.169.18 (05/09 09:13) ※ 編輯: eaquson 來自: 61.230.169.18 (05/09 09:25)