Re: [Mind] Why I feel so terrible
: If there were cures to all sexually transmitted diseases, what would
: your comment be?
: Of course, there is always risk in anything one does. Are you implying
: that sexual activities partaken by lovers are safer than those between
: sex workers and their clients?
: How many people you know actually ask their partners to be checked for
: STDs BEFORE becoming sexually involved with them? "Love" by itself
: doesn't really protect anyone against these diseases. On the other
: hand, most professional sex workers are aware that safety is of
: paramount importance and thus always use protection and regularly
: visit the doctor to ensure they are in good health because they want
: to stay in business.
: As the saying goes, the only way of having sex without any risk of
: getting the diseases is abstinence (no sex at all) or masturbation
: (if the hands are clean :).
I have been reading the posts under this thread, and I have to say that it
raises a most controversial issue. So controversial, that at one point I was
starting to feel a little uneasy about it, wondering if I should regulate
discussions of this kind. At the end, I decided not to set rules against
this kind of discussions. Because although controversial, it is no doubt
and interesting issue that I believe people will have different opinions on,
and for you all to express your personal opinions is part of what makes this
board so interesting. And that it is really not my job as a board
maintainer to prevent such a discussion. Although perhaps just as a friendly
reminder for all, when you raise a controversial issue like this, do try to
be sensitive, and not to offend people in general.
Anyway, back to the topic. I will raise two points on this. Firstly, purely
with regard to STDs, because the post above seems to suggest that there is
no greater risk in contracting a sexually transmitted disease whether you
have sex with a professional sex worker or your partner. Two assumptions were
made on this point, and, with respect, I would say that the assumptions are
not well-founded.
The first assumption is expressly stated, as that sex workers would visit the
doctors regularly to ensure that they do not have diseases that they will
pass to their clients. Whether that is true in itself is doubtful, but I am
not in a position to comment, (as I personally have absolutely no knowledge in
this area whatsoever) However, I think I can fairly say that the more sexual
partners you have, the more you are exposed to the possibilities of STDs.
And also that, for a lot of these diesases, there can be no symptoms for
quite a long time. So on that basis, I would argue that when you have a sexual
relation with a professional sex worker, the risks of catching a STD (or
multimple STDs) is quite significant.
The second assumption is not expressly stated, but rather implied. That is,
the writer suggests that because one would not inquire as to whether their
sexual partner has STDs, the risks of catching STDs from your own partner is
more or less the same as the risk of catching it from a sex worker.
Again I respectfully disagree with that, based on my own assumption (which
you are all free to diagree with) that your partner is unlikely to have had
as many sexual partners as a sex worker, who, presumably, has a different
sexual partner every time. Therefore, your risks are much lower with your
own partner. And I'm not saying that there is no risk, and certainly the risk
increases if your partner (or yourself for that matter) have had many
different sex partners in the past. But you mentioned love, and how it doesn't
protect against diseases. But I would say that if you love someone, and are
in a committed relationship with them, your risk of STDs is reduced with
only one partner for a considerable period of time.
So to conclude this section, I would say that, yes it's true that there's a
risk in everything that you do, including the risk of catching diseases when
you have sex with anyone. However, that is no reason to advocate for
professional sex workers. Because the risks of catching STDs is significantly
higher that if you have sex with a committed long-term partner.
I wish to raise another point on the issue of morality. However, because this
post is quite long already, I will post it separately.
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